LOOK AT ME!!!
No matter how shy a person is online or offline, everyone likes a little attention. It never hurts to have everyone saying they like your outfit, how good you look tonight, or how much they loved your presentation in class. Most people do not directly ask for the attention in person, but they seem to beg for it online. We all have a friend on Facebook or someone we follow on Twitter that always posts something to get attention. Sometimes they post a status about how they will never get a boyfriend, or they post a picture to Instagram about how much weight they need to lose. The newest craze I have seen is “Throwback Thursdays.” Every Thursday you post a picture of yourself (supposedly from many years ago). Most of the captions I have seen have been about how cute the person used to be or how skinny they used to be. Some of the photos are actually funny and show the person in a ridiculous outfit that had been stylish at one point.
I have a Facebook friend who is constantly posting statuses about how she isn’t feeling well, how sick of boys she is or some sort of sexual innuendo. How is she always too sick to go to work, but she can bum around on Facebook for hours? Girl, get some medicine and go to sleep! Why draw attention to your flaws just for a little sympathy? Her complaining about boys is not unique to her. It is something constantly being posted about on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. We have the ability to tell our friends our relationship status on Facebook; however, that also means they will all know when you and your “boo” are no longer an item. That’s when the statues begin about “forever alone,” and how “boys totally suck.” One of my friends broke up with his girlfriend in person and she seemed very calm about the situation. But as soon as she was home, she to took to her computer to let world know how she really felt. Her status read: “I guess I was right. Jewelry is forever men are not! _____ just broke up with me b/c of a feeling in his heart. If anyone wants to call him and tell him what a mistake he is making feel free. (555)-555-5555. Otherwise I don’t want to talk about it right now.” She obviously does not want to talk about it right if she is posting about it online!
Statuses and tweets are not the only place people like to talk about themselves; people are starting to hashtag about themselves on Facebook. People are basically captioning selfies with a big sign that reads “LOOK AT ME!” Some of my Facebook friends have hashtagged their photos #beautiful, #fit, #newhair, #nomakeup. You do not need to tell how beautiful and fit you think you are. Posting a photo of you by yourself already shows how confident you are.
I’m sick of selfies. Before I get to posting a picture of someone alone that they obviously took themselves, let’s discuss watching people take a selfie. You look ridiculous! When you hold your phone in front of your face and purse your lips to make that perfect duck face, it just looks weird. Why not take a picture with a friend? At least have someone else take the picture of you alone. The ability to post a picture of yourself makes people delusional that they are models. Actual models are no exception to the selfie rule. Backstage in a new look for next season, make-up and hair done, how could they not resist the urge to post? What makes a selfie worst are some of the captions some people write.
Sometimes an attention seeker ends up being an over sharer. They tend to post statuses that are over dramatic. They use unnecessary punctuation and CAPIZALIZATION!!!! They will do anything to draw attention to themselves. Sometimes they want sympathy, sometimes they want “likes,” and sometimes they want your attention even when you are not online. The attention seeker not only wants your attention in your online world, she wants to continue on in your conversations offline. Social media has begun to control our offline interactions. Our conversations are starting to revolve around what we see posted online. Popularity is now defined by how many people like your new default, or if you can get a celebrity to retweet you. In Nancy Baym’s book , Personal Connections in the Digital Age, she shows “concern that our communication has become increasingly shallow.” (Pg. 1) I cannot help but agree when it seems like everyone’s goal online is to be talked about or “followed.” A little self-promotion doesn’t hurt, but some people just take it a little too far.